Updated: Dec 19, 2020

Is love your natural response?

I'm not sure if you have ever heard the phrase, "hurt people hurt people" I remind myself of that someone is not as kind as they should be. I also have to remind myself I didn't always have a loving heart myself; some of it tied back to me not 100% loving me. When I really sat down and thought about the why's, I realized some of what I saw and didn't love in other people was actually flaws of my own.

Ephesians 4: 2-3 NIV
2 Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. 3 Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.

If you find yourself struggling with showing love or your first response tends to be negative, here are some ideas to flip that script:

  • Stop saying things to yourself you wouldn't dare say to your best friend - I'm not worthy, you're no good, no one loves you, you're a loser, _____________{fill in blank(s)}.

  • Display positive words around your home, car, office - read them every day to You until you believe them.

  • If you feel anger or ill-will for others, you need to forgive them. Even if that person is you.

  • Start and end your day with a grateful heart, taking the time to write down at least three things you are grateful for.

  • Before you reply negatively, take time to step back and breathe, remember you could be the change someone needs to see today.

You are responsible for your reactions and thoughts; choose love.

Yours in hope, love, & grace,

Nicole Lynn-Higginbotham


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